There’s a way I dress for events and play when I’m of the mood. It’s femininised, but it’s still masculine. I have a fuck-off huge moustache and a deep and strong regional accent, so that’s staying. It involves skirts and stockings. It has corsets and sharp mens jackets. It’s entirely comfortable (psychologically – corsets and heels intrinsically can’t be physically comfortable). Make up is subtle but obvious.
It’s fundamentally NOT drag. It’s not performative, except that it’s for me as the primary audience. And today I found out that there’s a word for it.